Hello. I'm Chela, I'm 20 years old and I'm an uni student living in Madrid. This is my main blog. I pretty much post whatever i want. I have a variety of tastes so there is a chance that'll I'll post stuff you don't like. I tag my stuff so no worries. If you want to talk to me or ask any questions or whatever, my ask box is always open.
Dreams come true turned into nightmares the moment I opened my eyes,
And I hear myself spinning lies out of truths I can’t bear to speak
Because it’s so much easier to say the universe carved these scars into my skin
Than to admit that I invite self-destruction as naturally as oxygen.
I was never afraid of heights as much as I was afraid of falling from them,
But last night when I looked down at the pavement right outside of my window
I realized then that what I’m really scared of is never hitting the ground,
Because I don’t want to see how low I’ll get before this is finally over.
People try to kill my hopes without realizing they’re walking through a graveyard,
They say terrible things to me to bring me down from a high I’ve never even seen,
And they’d probably feel disappointed that in my nightmares my killer is always me,
Because you can’t hurt a girl that wants to feel pain without giving her what she wants.
One summer night, I watched as the dark skies gradually gave way under the light of the sun,
I wanted to freeze time and spend eternity in the moment before the rest of the world woke up;
I don’t know when I became so scared of the people in my life that I wanted to shut them out
But maybe it was when I realized that they would all sit back and watch me walk a solitary road.
When I look in the mirror I see the ghost of a girl who didn’t know that she was walking into a battlefield,
I see someone who bore the crosses of people that will never be able to wash my blood off their hands
Because I remember who I was when I was alive and I remember what I had to sacrifice because of them
And I know I don’t deserve to become a scapegoat for people who are unsatisfied with their own lives.
okay this is maybe going to spark some controversy.
sex and gender are TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS. sex is genitalia. there are TWO types of genitalia. gender is different. I’m not an expert on that but there are many genders. well more than two.
a SEXUALITY is who you have SEXUAL attraction to, meaning genitals. you don’t have sex with someone’s gender identity. and there are only TWO options for genitals.
hence, BI- TWO!!!- SEXUALITY.
as a bisexual, I’d date someone of any gender.
now can we all quit arguing over something as simple as this?
you are so wrong i can’t function
Sex and gender are two totally different things, and that’s where the validity of your argument ends.
Sexual orientation, in a textbook definition sense, means the natural preference in sexual partners. That INCLUDES genders.That’s why bisexuality and pansexuality are different things. Bisexuals are sexually attracted to two genders that generally seem to include people who identify as women and people who identify as men, although that’s not always the case. They might not be sexually attracted to people who are androginous,transgender, genderfluid, intersex, agender and anything else out there. Not because there’s anything wrong with that, but because it just doesn’t do it for them.
You can’t have sex with someone’s gender identity, you have sex with their genitals. Physically, that’s true. But, if you’re only concerned about the person’s genitals than that’s sexual objectification, which is bad. Personally, I’d prefer to have sex with PEOPLE I’m attracted to, instead of genitalia I’m attracted to, because if not then why would I bother with people? I could just buy a dildo and be done with it. Also, not everyone is stricty born with either male sexual organs or female sexual organs.
If you’re attracted to anyone of any gender identity then that’s pansexuality. I mean, I’m not going to tell anyone to identify as anything other than what they feel as comfortable as identifying, but then, at the very least, don’t hold everyone to your standard of sexuality. K? Thxs, bye.
You’re mostly right, pointing out the flaws with OP’s ‘attracted to the two sets of genitals’ idea, but please don’t peddle the ‘bisexuality is attraction to two genders, probably men and women’ definition, because you’re ignoring how bisexuals have defined their sexuality for a long time now. It’s insulting and we get a lot of it, so please stop.
“Bisexuals are sexually attracted to two genders that generally seem to include people who identify as women and people who identify as men, although that’s not always the case. They might not be sexually attracted to people who are androginous,transgender, genderfluid, intersex, agender and anything else out there.”
Since both you and Jay have corrected those two sentences, I’d like to correct them, because sometime the way I think I’m going to come across and they way I’m actually going to come cross are a bit different. I added word like “seem,” “not alway the case” and “might” to use the popular perception of bisexuality without saying ALL bisexuals are JUST attracted to females and males because it’s very obvious that that’s not the case. What I MEANT but obviously mis-articulated was,
"Bisexuals are people who have the potential to be sexually and/or romantically attracted to more than one group of people on the gender spectrum. However, there are many groups of gender, and bisexual people may not be attracted to every one of them, which is where the distinction between bisexuality and pansexuality comes in."
Sorry for any offense that may have been taken from the original statement, and hope that this is better.